Sex and intimacy after baby

Sex and intimacy after baby

Both you and your husband are getting used to having a baby around. Your husband may be just as nervous about being a parent as you are. Make sure you talk to each other. Talking about your feelings can help keep you both from feeling hurt and frustrated. As soon as you can, make time for just the two of you. Ask someone you trust to take care of the baby for an hour or two and go for a walk or out to dinner.

Generally, it is OK to have sex 4-6 weeks after birth, although not everyone waits that long, and not everyone is ready that soon. If you had a difficult birth, you might need longer to physically recover. Even if you are ready physically, you might not be ready emotionally. Having a baby is a hormonal rollercoaster and you may need more time to adjust. You also might be afraid of pain and could be tired from the demands of your newborn. Even if you don’t have sex, you can still be intimate; stroking, kissing, masturbation and oral sex are all be options if you are interested.

You might feel self conscious of your body after having a baby. Don’t. You just brought a human being into this world; your body is amazing. Never forget that. Generally, it takes first-time mothers 6-12 months to get back to their pre-pregnancy weight. Sex might also feel different. Often women experience vaginal dryness due to hormonal changes so use a lubricant. Experiment with different positions to find out what is most comfortable for you. Take it at your own pace and stop whenever you want to. Don’t worry, your sex life will return to normal soon enough.